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Painful Sex
How to Stop Pain and Enjoy Sex Again
Painful Sex is, without a doubt, one of the most complex sexual issues to diagnose and treat successfully.
The predominant reason is that successful diagnosis and treatment is reliant on a multi-disciplinary approach. In other words, it is not possible to heal from Painful Sex without treating both the physical as well as the psychological causes and impacts, simultaneously. Even when no physical cause exists, it is still vital to rule that out with certainty.
Pain during sex creates a lot of shame and guilt. When patients do bravely find the courage to speak out, they’re shunted from doctor to doctor, each with differing opinions, and none with all-encompassing answers.
Another reason why Painful Sex is a challenging topic is that definitions for the potential causes differ widely. In my experience, even some qualified physicians can’t differentiate between Vulvodynia, Vaginismus, Dyspareunia, or the different types thereof.
Finally, doctors and psychologists alike, have always assumed that “Painful Sex” really meant “pain during attempted vaginal intercourse”. In my mind, that is fundamentally incorrect. “Sex” (if we mean intercourse) could involve a vagina, penis, and/or anus. Many men experience painful sex when having anal intercourse (as do women). And many men suffer from penile pain when attempting to penetrate either the vagina or anus. Additionally, a penis is far from being the only object to be used in sexual pleasure as the method of intercourse.
Clearly, even in our modern age, we have a lot to learn about helping patients in a holistic way that addresses all sexualities and all types of healthcare professionals involved in treatment.
I understand that treating Painful Sex is a highly sensitive and complex issue. I have a wealth of experience in helping my patients to heal, successfully, and to experience the freedom and delight of pain-free intimacy.
The solutions I offer aren’t instant, nor easy. But they are real and will lead to recovery from shame, guilt, and agonising pain.
Psychological factors are either the originating cause, or act as ongoing elements of distress to Painful Sex that exacerbates the problem.
I work as an experienced central agent in your treatment. In therapy, we’ll work through the psychological causes and effects of the pain together, until arriving at a point where you feel entirely confident again.
We’ll also investigate any physiological causes together. I’ll refer you to private or NHS medical professionals I know and trust in the way of identifying and treating the physiological aspects. Together, we’ll provide you with a range of options available to you, while eliminating any harm the condition may have done to that point. If you require medical treatment, I’ll work with you to select the correct treatment provider, as well as to counsel you through the process successfully.
You won’t be running from doctor to doctor without a central voice of reason. Rather, my goal is to make sure that you’re treated as a whole and unique individual every step of the way.
In doing this, we’ll achieve a holistic approach and guarantee that your condition is successfully treated – permanently, and without costing you an arm and a leg.
If you’d like more information on the successful treatment of Painful Sex, please contact me to schedule a Free Initial Consultation.
Client Feedback:
“My husband and I have been together for 5 years. 2 years ago, out of the blue, I suddenly started having excruciating pain every time we tried to have sex. My GP wasn’t much help at all.
A friend who went through something similar told me about James and I decided to contact him. At first I thought it might be awkward talking about private things with a male, but I felt right at ease from the beginning.
James helped me to find out what the cause was by referring me to a brilliant doctor. While I was having the treatment I continue seeing him for therapy to deal with all the issues that this caused over time. My husband saw him too and we worked through a lot together.
Our sex life is better now than it was before the pain started. We make love often and we’re truly as close as we’ve ever been.
I can’t recommend him highly enough.
Thanks!”
Deborah, Manchester
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Erectile
Dysfunction
Erectile Dysfunction can always be treated. Find out how I can help you.
Desire
Differences
Learn to navigate libido in your relationship. Rediscover intimacy and passion.